NTAHANGWA, April 23 (ABP) – Surprise birthday parties, often organized as a sign of affection and care for a loved one, do not always produce the expected psychological effects, particularly for some individuals, said Oscar Niyonzima, a clinical psychologist working at the association for the fight against malaria and the promotion of mental health, based in Kinama, in Ntahangwa commune, Bujumbura province.
According to Mr. Niyonzima, the unpredictable nature of a surprise birthday party can trigger a stress reaction in the person concerned. This unexpected situation sometimes leads to an increased heart rate, a rise in anxiety, or a feeling of discomfort, especially among individuals who prefer to control their environment or are less inclined to express their emotions.
He specified that the birthday itself can be a source of discomfort, a phenomenon known as the “birthday blues.” This manifests as social pressure to appear happy, a tendency to reflect on one’s life, or the resurfacing of negative memories. When a surprise party is added to these feelings, the emotional shock can be intensified, he noted.
Moreover, sudden exposure to a crowd or an unanticipated social situation can generate anxiety, embarrassment, or irritability, particularly among introverted individuals.
Mr. Niyonzima also emphasized that this loss of control can temporarily affect mental well-being, causing emotional fatigue and difficulties in concentration.
In addition, sociocultural factors can influence how men experience these situations. In many contexts, social norms encourage them to hide their emotions, which may lead them to internalize their discomfort instead of expressing it, thereby increasing their stress levels.
Experts believe that certain conditions, such as periods of stress, low self-esteem, or a history of anxiety disorders, can make surprise birthday parties particularly difficult to handle.
In light of these observations, Mr. Niyonzima recommends prioritizing communication and taking into account the personality of the individual before organizing a celebration. “An appropriate approach would ensure that these moments remain a source of joy rather than psychological pressure,” he added.